“What do I wear?” How many times have you asked yourself or someone else this question?
Do you love getting the invitation and then it hits you, oh what am I supposed to wear? It does seem that we have more rules these days about how to dress for special events in our lives. The dress code might be implied, and even when it’s made explicit on the invitation, these descriptions can be difficult to decode.
I think we are a bit out of practice, and hosts are getting more creative with dress codes, so deciphering between what’s “casual chic” versus “festive cocktail” attire is really confusing.
Whether it’s for a wedding, baptism, funeral, job interview, casual party, holiday party, baby or bridal shower, some planning is in order. (Let’s face it, even going to the gym requires some thought and planning.)
So many situations in life require us to meet certain standards when it comes to dressing and presenting ourselves to the world. I believe what it truly comes down to is dressing for yourself, not others. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out; When you are dressing for a particular occasion, you want to look situationally appropriate, while not ignoring your authentic self and what you feel comfortable wearing.
With spring on the doorstep and many weddings and gatherings on the horizon here is your guide to occasion dressing.
White Tie
White tie is one of the most formal of affairs. Think very formal wedding or a state dinner situation. This requires a full length ballgown, or princess-style dress with all the extras like gloves and diamonds.
Black Tie
Black tie dress is a formal way of dressing. A mid to floor-length gown is the way to go for upscale events, like formal weddings & charity galas. You can never go wrong with a long black gown with bold jewels.
Black Tie Optional
What does this mean? When an invitation says a style of dress is “optional” the host is stating their preference, but allowing for some wiggle room. If you have a long dress, wear it—or the next best thing. Shorter hemlines that hit around the knee at a black tie–optional affair is acceptable. If you decide to go short, the dress should be fancy.
Always be mindful about the intended theme of the event. Check out what has been photographed and documented online to get an idea of formality. Religious ceremonies deserve respect with a more conservative outfit.
Cocktail Attire
The translation is semiformal, think elegant party dress and a great pair of heels. The LBD is a great choice for most wedding, engagement parties, and many fund-raisers. Color is always in style for a cocktail party. The easiest way to achieve the perfect cocktail-party outfit is by opting for a short dress with an A-line cut to add a bit of drama.
Creative Black Tie
Think of black tie with a twist. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Festive Dress Code
Also known as holiday attire, creative cocktail attire, or dress-to-impress. It means to bring some fun and creativity, either in the design, color or both.
Beach Formal- Dressy Resort
Heading to a beach wedding or a rustic rehearsal dinner? Ditch the heels!
It’s common to see dressy resort (or garden party) on an outdoor wedding invitation. Think easy and breezy with a touch of elegance!
Smart Casual
Ok, my least favorite! UGH! Looking pulled-together and party-ready in jeans, I think requires a very unique blazer or a very special blouse with “kick ass” heels.
And lastly,
Come As You Are
Don’t believe it! Pretty much anything goes except leggings/workout wear. But, think about how you would like guests to dress if they were coming to your party.
Putting an event driven wardrobe together is like completing a puzzle. Sifting through the pieces making sure things fit together just right. Most dress code “rules” should be seen as general guidelines—with a few exceptions-like avoiding wearing white to a wedding unless the bride says so, and underdressing for an event such as an outdoor wedding in a casual setting.
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